After her husband suffered a stroke, an older woman named H.L. found herself feeling left out of social activities she used to enjoy with other couples. This experience of social exclusion can happen to people of all ages, but research suggests older adults are more likely to experience it. Social exclusion can lead to loneliness and isolation, which are two different but related feelings.
Psychologist Bella DePaulo suggests that some couples may feel superior to single individuals and prefer to spend time only with other couples. Other reasons for social exclusion may include habit, unawareness of the challenges faced by older individuals, feeling threatened by an extra person, accidental exclusion, or privacy concerns.
To address this situation, H.L. and others in similar positions can take action by having conversations with their social group, extending invitations to social activities, making new friends, and being open to creating a new social community. Additionally, it is important for those with a supportive social network to be aware of others who may be feeling alone and extend invitations to connect.
This situation highlights the “invisible women’s syndrome,” where age and gender intersect to create negative outcomes. It is important for individuals to stay engaged, be both interesting and interested, and take notice of those around them who may need support. Ultimately, creating a supportive community is beneficial for everyone involved.
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